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By Carol S. Wolf

Spring is almost here. I am really looking forward to warmer weather. We have not had a lot of snow but I love spring and summer. I found a poem the other day when I was going through some of my old folders. This definitely speaks to all of us.

Sometimes my thoughts
are a tangle of threads
twisted and knotted
colors all jumbled.
I cannot embroider
a pattern for living
unless I sort colors
and undo the knots.
My efforts are futile
until I remember
to ask God for guidance
He rethreads my needle.
With faltering fingers
I start again, slowly.
And out of the chaos
emerges design.

I loved this poem because today it seems there is a longing for a sense of purpose for life and a deeper connection with God. Today, both young and old live stress-filled lives. They are struggling to get through today and tomorrow with little time to think about their dreams and aspirations. Often times, they are wondering, “Why do I feel so unsatisfied?”

The resurgence of spirituality seems best described, to me, as “21st century cpirituality.” It acknowledges the spiritual disciplines of the past but it also affirms and encourages each seeker to pursue the meaning in their own life. It does not say “this is the only way it is.”

21st century spirituality is:

• Where body, mind, and soul are seen as connected and sacred.

• Empowerment of each person to discover his or her purpose in life through a variety of spiritual disciplines.

• Each person’s own response to God, no matter his or her faith.

Thirty-plus years ago, I began a journey of discovery to find who I was and what I was meant to be and do. It has been an exciting adventure. Of course, there are detours, stop signs, and forks in the road on any journey. I have experienced them all. The first thing I found important was to know more about myself to discover my strengths, weaknesses, gifts/talents, and abilities. There are many tools to do this. These are a few I have used:

• Myers-Briggs Personality Profile, <>

• Keirsey Temperament sorter, <>

• Discover Your Spiritual Gifts Workshop, <>

21st century spirituality helps us discover who we are and moves us to action. Did you know if you go on the Internet and put in the word “spirituality,” you get more than 11,000,000 hits? That is so incredible. Here are five that I have explored.

• Spirituality in Healthcare- WNY, <>

• Spirituality for Today, <>

• Native American Spirituality, <>

• Workplace Spirituality, <>

• <,> which explores religions such as Buddhism, Catholicism, Eastern Orthodoxism, Mormonism, Hinduism, Protestantism, Islam, Judaism, Earth-based religions, etc.

The exciting thing is that these quests for spirituality are happening right here in Western New York in a variety of ways. Through my experience leading a variety of workshops through the years and working with a variety of people, I have discovered that many feel inadequate or that they have failed. When you know who you are and feel confident and peaceful, you free yourself to find meaning in your life. There are workshops in churches and organizations that are often listed in the Buffalo News to help search for that meaning. There are many books to uncover your passion. You might want to start a group with some of your friends. It is fun and enlightening.

If you know of a successful program in your community or would like more information please let me know at

Carol Wolf is a writer, speaker, storyteller, and leader of workshops and retreats. She is retired from 35 years in health care administration and co-hosts a TV show called Challenge for the 21st Century for the Network of Religious Communities. She is the author of Journey into Prayer and Biblical Storytelling in Youth Ministry. She has been married to Dick for 58 years and they have two sons, four grandchildren, and one great-grandson.



Carol wrote this book as part of her two year Master's program in the Academy for Biblical Storytellers. It has just been published and is available for $10.00. Carol is an author, speaker and leader of workshops meditations and conference.
"This book give you an opportunity to experience how, when we become a part of the biblical story, we often find meaning for our own life. It is an incredible resource for confirmation, baptism, and intergenerational groups." Trracy Radosevic, Dean, Academy for Biblical Storytellers.
Anyone interested in buying a book can email me The book is $10.00 + $2.00 mailing.